As an eating disorder therapist informed by Health at Every Size (HAES) principles, I understand the importance of supporting teens with eating disorders in a way that promotes body diversity, body respect, and a focus on overall well-being rather than weight focused care. Returning to school can be a particularly challenging time for teens with eating disorders. But with the right support, they can navigate this transition successfully.

Here are my top eight tips for parents to support their teens during this critical period, grounded in HAES/Fat positive principles:

If you are unfamiliar with the term, Health At Every Size, we recommend you visit The Association for Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH)’s website, where you can learn about the ten principles of the Health At Every Size Movement.

1. Prioritize Open and Non-Judgmental Communication

Maintaining open and non-judgmental communication with your teen is crucial. Encourage them to express their feelings and concerns about returning to school while navigating recovery. Listen actively and without judgment, providing a safe space for them to share their experiences. Validate their emotions and let them know that it's okay to feel anxious or overwhelmed. This open line of communication can help build trust and make them feel supported. Be open to taking feedback on how you can best support your teen!

2. Collaborate with the School for a Supportive Environment

Work closely with your teen's school to ensure they have the necessary support. Inform teachers, counselors, and administrators about your teen's needs — including any accommodations that might help them. This could include flexible mealtimes, access to a quiet space, or additional support from the school nurse. Creating a supportive school environment that respects your teen's individual needs is essential for their well-being.

3. Focus on Routine and Consistency

A structured routine can provide a sense of stability for teens with eating disorders. Help your teen establish a consistent daily schedule that includes regular mealtimes, study periods, and time for relaxation and hobbies. Emphasize the importance of nourishing their body with regular meals and snacks, focusing on how food fuels their body and supports their overall health rather than on weight or appearance. Also finding time for joyful eating is extra important!

4. Encourage Mindful Media Consumption

Social media can have a significant impact on teens' body image and self-esteem. Encourage your teen to follow accounts that promote fat positivity, self-acceptance, and HAES principles. Have open discussions about the unrealistic standards often portrayed online and help them develop critical thinking skills to navigate social media mindfully. Encourage them to take breaks from social media if it becomes overwhelming.

5. Promote Healthy Coping Mechanisms

Help your teen develop healthy coping mechanisms to manage stress and anxiety. Encourage activities that promote relaxation and well-being, such as mindfulness practices, yoga, journaling, or creative outlets like art and music. Physical activity should be encouraged in a way that focuses on enjoyment and overall health, rather than weight control. Emphasize the importance of self-care and finding activities that bring joy and relaxation.

6. Educate Yourself on HAES and Eating Disorders

Understanding HAES principles and the nuances of eating disorders can help you provide better support for your teen. Educate yourself about the harmful effects of diet culture and the importance of promoting body respect and diversity. Attend workshops, read books, and seek guidance from professionals who specialize in HAES and eating disorders. The more informed you are, the better equipped you will be to support your teen's recovery.

7. Create a Body-Neutral Home Environment

Fostering a body-neutral home environment is crucial for your teen's recovery. Avoid making comments about weight, appearance, or dieting. Instead, focus on promoting a healthy relationship with food and body. Encourage family meals where the emphasis is on connection and enjoyment rather than the food itself. Model positive behaviors by speaking kindly about your own body and embracing body diversity.

8. Seek Professional Support from HAES-Aligned Practitioners

Ensure your teen has access to professional support from therapists, dietitians, and other specialists who align with HAES principles. Regular therapy sessions can provide a safe space for your teen to process their feelings and develop coping strategies. A HAES-aligned dietitian can help your teen develop a healthy relationship with food without focusing on weight. Family therapy can also be beneficial in addressing underlying dynamics and strengthening your support system.

Bonus Tip: Practice Patience and Compassion

Recovery from an eating disorder is a journey that requires patience and compassion. There will be setbacks, and progress may be slow at times. Practice patience with your teen and yourself, celebrating small victories along the way. Show compassion and understanding, reinforcing that recovery is about overall well-being and not about achieving a certain weight or appearance.

Final Thoughts…

Supporting a teen with an eating disorder as they return to school is challenging but achievable with the right strategies and a compassionate approach. Prioritizing open communication, collaborating with the school, and maintaining a structured routine are essential steps. Encouraging mindful media consumption, promoting healthy coping mechanisms, educating yourself on HAES principles, creating a body-neutral home environment, and seeking professional support are all crucial components of a comprehensive support plan.

By embracing HAES principles, you can help your teen develop a healthier relationship with food and their body, fostering a sense of self-acceptance and well-being. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Reach out to professionals, support groups, and other parents who have been through similar experiences. Together, you can create a supportive network that empowers your teen to thrive both academically and personally.

Your unwavering support and commitment can make a significant difference in your teen’s recovery and overall well-being.

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8 Essential Tips for Parents: Navigating Back-to-School with Teens in Eating Disorder Recovery

Here are my top eight tips for parents to support their teens during this critical period, grounded in HAES/Fat positive principles:

1. Prioritize Open and Non-Judgmental Communication